If you haven’t seen the first movie or show, then you must have heard about it. Sex and the City has been “bringing it” for women all over for years. It started as a girl’s night indulgence where women could be wowed by eccentric yet fashionable females. The women of Sex and the City introduced cosmopolitans to a new generation and reminded us about the importance of friendship.
This Thursday Sex and the City 2 premieres in theaters everywhere and numerous parties where friends will get dressed to the nines and watch the “event” together. As I watch the preview, I am drawn to two characters in the preview – Miranda, the frazzled working mom and Charlotte, the overwhelmed mom.
Miranda is a working mom with a high profile job. She works late and long hours which is difficult when juggling a family and career. In the preview, Miranda’s son wins an award and she is overwhelmed by the fact that she made it. She didn’t miss the grand moment but she made it. There is nothing more stressful then trying to be there for your kids but not being able to be there every time. Unfortunately, there is always a line that is drawn in the sand; either you are on time or you are on the other side of the line. Unfortunately as a result of daily juggling there are more late than on time moments in my life.
Miranda explains the Charlotte that being a mom is hard and it is so much harder than ever expected. Both my children and I have high expectations of myself and sometimes I do fail. But there are other times, like the award ceremony with Miranda, where I feel like I have won a trophy just for getting there. It may be a small victory but I try to remind myself that sometimes it is the small victories that mean the most. For me it is a reminder that I am a good mom even if I run around like a chicken with my head cut off most of the time.
Charlotte is a busy mom with 2 children that are close in age. They are keeping her busy and trying her patience. I can totally relate to this as my children are getting older and testing house rules. In the preview, she confides in Miranda that she needs a break. This is the line that caught my attention because I think that moms forget how to admit this. Life is full of responsibilities before kids even enter the picture and they add a whole new element. Why do we forget to take time for ourselves ad retreat? Why do we feel guilty when we ask for help? When I ask for help with my kids I instantly feel guilty and start offering things that I can return the favor with. I am hoping that Charlotte’s motherhood hiatus will remind myself and other mothers that it is okay to ask for help, it is okay to take time for yourself and it is okay to remember who you are.
Many of us will be at the theater in the next few weeks, chomping on popcorn and drinking overpriced diet soda while we are captivated by the famous fashionable foursome. We will be shocked by outfits, laugh out loud and cry at moments during the movie. But most of all we will be reminded of the importance of friends and how even if we are moms and wives we still need to find room in our lies for our girlfriends. I am interested to see if the movie preview depicted Miranda and Charlotte’s roles as I understood but I won’t know that until I visit the theater myself. So ladies call your friends and schedule a date with your girlfriends – it could be a 2 hour hiatus that is definitely well deserved.
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