Parenting is challenging and it comes with a huge responsibility. Our kids look to us to teach them how to do everything from learning how to tie their shoes to understanding the complex nature of human relationships. It became so apparent to me how dramatically my every action affected my kids one night when my oldest was still a preschooler. We had just put the kids to bed and my husband and I heard noises coming from their bedroom. We had to laugh when we realized what they were saying.
“If you don’t go to sleep right. this. minute. I will have to put you in time out. I can’t hear myself think!”
We listened to them banter back and forth for about 10 minutes, sounding like nearly perfect mimics of our worst parenting moments. As funny as the situation was, it always comes to mind when I can’t myself using those overused phrases that we tend to use as parents – you know the ones that sound suspiciously like nagging. More often than not, the memory of my children repeating my words will stop me mid-sentence and I vow to work on being a better role model for my kids.
So, what kind of a role model are you?
Most of us look to our own parents for an example of a great role model. I still remember an experience I had in high school that has stayed with my. I was suffering my way through a government class that I didn’t even remotely enjoy. The teacher was strict and required 20-30 page papers on a regular bases. Towards the middle of the year she stood in front of the class and told us that she’d had a first in all of her 20 so odd years of teaching. She had been calling parents to give them a mid-year progress report. She said that the standard reaction of parents was, “How is my child doing?”, “Is he going to pass the class?”, “Does she pay attention?”.
The teacher said that this time, she’d had a parent ask a question that she had never had ask in all her years as a teacher. One parent asked, “Is my child happy?”. She was stunned that a parent would be more concerned about their child’s well being than how successful she was doing in the class.
I remember thinking, first of all, how sad it was that more parents didn’t ask that, and secondly, I knew that the parent who had asked that question was mine.
It’s easy to get carried away and focus more on your child’s achievements. I’ve tried to remember that the most important lesson that I can teach my kids is that happiness is the true indicator of success.
The National Milk Mustache got milk? Campaign understands how important role models are in a child’s life. To increase awareness, they have created a new interactive section on their Facebook page that includes information to help you become a better role model, touching videos about moms, and a great customizable ePostcard app that allows you to create your own milk mustache pictures and send them as an e-card. The app works best with a horizontal photo. I’ve realized yet again that I need to get in front of the camera more often instead of hiding behind it because the most current picture I have that I’m not embarrassed to show anyone is not only vertical but it’s nearly 2 years old.
“I wrote this review while participating in a blog tour by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of the National Milk Mustache got milk? Campaign and received a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.”