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October 22, 2014

Drowning Really is Silent

Drowning is Silent

I ran into the ER with mismatched clothes and wet hair. “My daughter was just brought in. She was in a pool accident.” I said.

A pool accident. That’s what they’d called it when my friend’s little girl drowned a few years earlier. I wondered what it meant at the time but now, I couldn’t bring myself to say “my daughter almost drowned”.

We’d celebrated my oldest son’s birthday with a pool party. Everyone had a great time and my 2-year-old daughter loved splashing around in the water in her life jacket. We are careful around water. I thought I knew how quickly an accident could happen. As we were packing up to leave I removed her life jacket, wrapped her up in a towel and put her on a deck chair.

“I go hot tub”, she said.

“No.” I told her. The hot tub was one of her favorite things but I knew that once I she got in it would take me forever to get her back out again. “It’s time to go home now”.

I left her sitting on the deck chair as I packed up a few things. We had 6 adults standing there so I felt like I could relax a bit. Afterall, what could go wrong with so much supervision? The truth is, you can NEVER relax when you have kids around the water. Never.

A few minutes later something jerked me to attention and I looked around for my daughter. She was nowhere to be seen. I scanned the pool first but she wasn’t there. The gate was open so I thought she may have wandered out and worried about cars I nearly went there first. Now I am so glad I didn’t.

There are 4 foot tall bushes between the pool and the hot tub that have grown thicker over time so I ran over there to check the other side before I went looking outside of the gate. What I saw as I came around the bushes horrified me. My daughter was face down in the center of the hot tub . . . and I had no idea how long she’d been in there.

I screamed for my husband, “She’s in the water!” and went running for the hot tub, jumping in fully clothed.

I don’t know if it was the shock of the situation or the fact that I was only a month out from my c-section and hadn’t fully recovered yet but I couldn’t get my body to move the way I wanted. I couldn’t get my daughter’s head above the water fast enough. I’d managed to push her closer to the edge and by then my husband was at the edge. He was holding one of the twins and reaching into the water with his other hand.

They always say that time slows down in an emergency but it’s an odd sensation when it happens to you. What must have only been a matter of seconds felt like an eternity. My husband quickly passed off the baby and began frantically working on my daughter.

She wasn’t breathing.

That image will stay with me for as long as I live. Her eyes were open but there was no life in them.

I’ve taken many CPR classes in the past but it’s been a while since I had a refresher and I froze. What was I supposed to do? What was the first step? There was no room for any thought in my mind except that my child was not breathing.

My husband did a Heimlich maneuver of sorts and pushed some water out of her tiny body. Reflexively, she began to vomit. Finally she coughed and took a breath.

We had 911 on the line and, right or not, since she was breathing we felt like we could get her to the hospital faster than we could direct the ambulance into our community pool so my husband grabbed her and rushed to the hospital.

I followed behind after changing out of my wet clothes and making sure the other kids were settled with my mom. Thank goodness we had help available so I could rush out the door and follow them.

At the ER they took me straight back. My daughter was sitting on my husband’s lap on the gurney in a large room surrounded by a team of doctors. Her oxygen levels were in the 80s. That was bad they told me. Her carbon dioxide levels were high. She had fluid in her lungs.

I was able to give my daughter a quick hug. When she saw me she teared up and with her sweet little voice said “mommy”. The doctor said they needed to intubate her to help her breath while her lungs healed. He kept telling me she was going to be fine but I didn’t believe him yet.

My daughter was sedated and intubated and we were told she’d need to be life-flighted to the children’s hospital. The team from the children’s hospital arrived and after stabilizing her they loaded her up and wheeled her away, leaving my husband and I standing in the hallway holding my daughter’s wet bathing suit as strangers took my daughter to the helicopter that would fly away without us.

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How does this happen? It took only minutes. There were plenty of adults around. None of us heard a thing.

Most moms have seen the “Drowning Doesn’t Look Like Drowning” post that has made it’s way around Facebook. We’ve heard that drowning is silent but until you see how quickly and quietly it can happen it doesn’t really sink in.

My daughter made no noise . . . she couldn’t. She didn’t splash. She didn’t yell for help. We were all standing ten feet away while she drowned.

At the hospital we were told they see their worst case scenarios at family gatherings when there’s plenty of people to supervise. Everyone thinks someone else is watching. Everyone thinks they can relax.

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We got off very, VERY lucky. The doctor told us my daughter likely had another 30 seconds before her heart stopped. When I think of how close things were I get chills. After 24 hours on the ventilator and another 24 hours in the hospital for observation my daughter was able to come home with us, but not before yelling at her nurse for pulling off the tape that held her IV’s in place.

Today she’s every bit as stubborn, smart, and wonderful as she was before her accident. Whenever I work up the courage to go back to the pool with my kids, you had better believe that I will not be taking my eyes off of them for a second.

You cannot relax around kids and water. Drowning can happen in seconds. It’s quick and it’s quiet and it can happen to your child. Fortunately our experience had a happy ending but we’re all feeling a bit traumatized and that experience is going to stay with me forever. The water is never going to look quite the same.

 

Have you ever had a close call with your kids? What precautions do you take with your kids around water?

 

About Rachel

Rachel knows what it is like to be busy and worry about balancing everything without losing your sanity. As a homeschooling mom of 6 incredibly different kids, including newborn twins (and one tiny angel who passed away at birth), she's just about seen it all . . . when she isn't too sleep deprived to notice.

Rachel holds a B.A. in English and is a former teacher. She is the creator of Busy Mommy Media and works as a freelance writer from home.

Comments

  1. Kristin Goodson says:

    Thank you for sharing! I’m always so nervous around water and I feel like I’m careful with my toddler, but this really could happen to anyone! I’m so thankful your daughter is okay! Hopefully this post can let others know how fast and quickly this could happen to them.

  2. Thank God she is okay.
    We had a built in pool when the older girls were little and I took CPR courses just in case. It was a constant worry that they would slip outside when we were asleep. The older one knew how to open the door, so we installed a lock way up high that she couldn’t reach. I have to say, I worried constantly about the pool and the kids especially when we had company because you are so easily distracted. Wow…I’m just glad you got to her in time.

  3. Sonya Morris says:

    What a nightmare that had to be! I am so glad she is okay!

  4. Rachel I can only imagine the terror you felt. Thank you so much for sharing this. I have shared it on all my social media channels. I’m so glad she is safe now. How are you healing after this?
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    • Emily, I’m still feeling a bit traumatized. I feel guilty for letting it happen. We are always so careful around water but apparently not quite careful enough. We have some bushes between our pool and hot tub that fortunately our HOA is now planning on removing but it’s no excuse for not having her right next to me when there was water nearby. It’s going to take me a very, VERY long time to get up enough courage to go back to the pool. I can’t imagine being at the pool when the twins are mobile. Having 3 non-swimmers scares me to death.

  5. I am so sorry. I saw your photo last week and then we came to my in laws this week. They have an indoor pool with doors that cannot be secure from the inside to access the pool as it’s a main exit from upstairs.
    Last year when we were here one if my twins tried to walk on the flimsy pool cover and got wet up to her waist. Thankfully someone was close by.
    This year, the day we arrived the other one (who also loves the water and has no fear) got in at the stairs and then fell over with a splash. My husband heard her from the yard, they’d left the outside door open.
    It freaks me out more to be in a large gathering because I know everyone assumes someone else is watching. I can’t ever relax unless I know I’ve assigned someone specific to watch and even then I’m paranoid. This house is too big and there are too many people staying here. So scary.
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    • Krista,

      That would scare me to death. I always thought I’d love to have a pool in the backyard but I really don’t think I could do it now. It’s bad enough having a community pool with no lifeguard to be a second set of eyes. My boys have been swimming for so long so the pool had been a relaxing place to hang out. Now with non-swimmers it’s stressful.

  6. Oh my what a story, I was crying reading this because I know how scared you all must have been! We are surround by water in the islands. I was am & always will be a freak, before I wouldn’t let them take off their floaties till we reached the car because I can’t keep my eyes on all of them at the same time, if one goes in atleast I know they will have a chance to float up till I or someone can help them. It may not be the best solution but it does work to keep them safe. I’m so happy your daughter is happy and doing so much better. God Bless you all

  7. Oh Rachel, I’m crying for you! I’ve written about this on Right Start every year and truly, until you’ve had any scare you don’t realize how silent it is and how quickly it can happen. I’m SO sorry that your scare was so very scary and such a close call!! And, after just having the babies – I can’t even imagine! That mom intuition that caused you to look up is a very real thing. I’m SO so so glad she is ok!
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  8. Rachel,
    I don’t even know what to say, I am so happy she is okay now. That is terrifying.
    Nancy Johnson Horn´s last blog post ..Art For Your Kids & Home From DazsPlus

  9. Samantha Jenkins says:

    I’m so glad your darling is ok. Such a terrible event but a wonderful ending. Hugs

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